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25 Days of Gratitude: Day 13

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Today I am grateful my name is safe.  It is a little thing, but it means so much to me.  I feel comfort knowing that my husband will not say anything critical of me to another person.  Recently, I had a talk with my children about this very topic.  I suggested that they give each other the same respect: that they will not bad-mouth their siblings to their friends.  At first they were a little confused, but as I explained how much more they will love each other through this one act of kindness, they felt more assured of their relationships with each other and agreed to at least experiment upon this idea. 

Today Andrew went to a birthday party.  The childs' mom volunteers in his classroom every Friday.  She acted in a certain way toward Andrew and said something to me when I dropped him off that made me believe that his name is not safe with his teacher.  And, it hurts thinking that his teacher may have said something to one of the parent volunteers about Andrew ... especially, because of the impression I got, that it wasn't something positive.  I wish that we could instate an agreement between all persons to only talk to the person with whom you have a grievance, instead of talking to others about them.  It is so reassuring to know my name is safe, and I am so thankful that this one little act is performed for me everyday.
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Aubrey A said…
Oh Marisa, my heart breaks for you and Andrew reading this post! How terrible for you! I hate nasty gossip and backbiting and to know that it comes from your child's teacher is doubly troubling. I'm am so sorry that this has happened. The one place that a child should be able to feel safe (beyond our own home) is school, and when a teacher violates that, oooh it makes me sad and mad at the same time! Oh, I could go on and on about how wrong that is! Oooh, I'm so sorry.
November 13, 2010
Aubrey A said…
Oh, I love, Love, LOVE your new photos bytheway! They so amazingly cute!!
November 13, 2010
Lynette said…
Wow. Excellent point! This never occurred to me. We talk a lot about being each other's best friends (not just "siblings") and speaking kindly to each other, but it never occurred to me to think about not talking badly about each other to their other friends...Now my oldest is barely seven, so it really isn't an issue right now, but it's always best practice to practice when they are young rather than waiting for a learning experience. :) :) :)

Thank you for such a wonderful idea. See! You are an AMAZING mother!! Really what you're saying, too, is that it's important to look out for each other...To stand up for each other.

And P.S. When Alan and I were first married, he made it a POINT to never say anything negative about me to his friends. And he never has. I, on the other hand, had to mature a little bit and stop myself from joining in with other not-so-appreciate wives. Why is it such a hard thing to put into practice??

Anyway, thank you so much for another wonderful post!!

OH! Cute family pictures, too!!
November 14, 2010
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