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Never the Same Again

It is amazing to me that I never noticed the hardships my parents dealt with while I was younger.  Perhaps they weren't as frequent as the hardships I see today.  Perhaps it is a sign of the times.  I have a theory that life is not going to get any easier.  I feel like we've had times in the last decade during which everything was mild, and hardships were few and far between.  Not so much now.  It seems like there are heartaches and pains, rough times and confusion so much more now, and simultaneously.  I don't think it will ever go back to the way it was before ... at least, not while I am here on earth.


I have friends or family who are struggling with debt, job loss, divorce, deaths, children so sick they need surgery, cancer, limited finances/work, etc.  It really puts things into perspective for me.  How many times do I complain during the day about the things I think are "hard?"


Yes, the things that I have to deal with are "hard" for me, but when compared to the things that others are dealing with, I realize that it could be much, much worse.  And, I don't think I am equipped to deal with those obstacles I haven't been given.


Thankfully, I have so many people I can look to for inspiration when I hit a rough spot.  A couple handful of amazing women and men who weather their storms with such faith and strength.  They give me hope that while my storm isn't the tornado their storms are, at least I can find the faith and strength I need to make it through mine.


So, thank you to everyone I know who struggle, but put on a brave face.  I have an inkling that inside you are breaking down as much as I am, but seeing your ability to push through it and endure helps me to know that I am not alone, even during my little insignificant trials compared to yours.

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It is amazing to me how some people get through some of the trials they do. Life is hard sometimes, but I always have to remember that the Lord will never give us more than we can handle.
Lynette said…
Amen to all that you said so well...I'm so grateful I have the gospel otherwise I don't honestly think I could have handle the last 8 years. And I am thankful I've been given what I've been given. It's nice to know the Lord knows us so well that we can have faith that we can overcome our trials.

You're such a great friend, Marisa! I enjoy reading your thoughts because it reminds me I'm not alone in my struggles and my thoughts on motherhood and the gospel. :)
Aubrey A said…
I agree completely with what you said as well, but I have also learned a valuable lesson through my own experience of challenges. What may appear to us to be difficult, to others might be easy. We all have our different "crosses" to carry, and what may be hard for one is easy for another. So while I am SOOOO grateful for my own challenges in life, I also know that other people might not be able to carry the burden I've been given. Whenever I think about that, it reminds me that the Lord does know us each, individually, and that he really will not give us more than we can handle. (And when he does, there are others there to buoy us up.) Knowing that, is the greatest gift our loving Heavenly Father has ever given me. Thank you for this post!!
Tanners said…
hey i know this is off topic--but i want to see pictures of the new house!
Graham said…
This is just what I needed to hear today, thank you. You're right, and I do the same thing, feel sorry for myself when I KNOW others have it so much worse off than us. :)

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