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Last night Jon took Kate with him to the church for the youth activities. Usually he goes by himself so he can help, but Kate was having an especially hard day, so he took her with him to get some one-on-one time. When he came home he said, "Kate broke my heart tonight."

I wondered what he meant by that; then he explained that she was telling him all about the times when she plays with her friends, including recess time at school. She said that she always wants to play with a particular friend, and then after they play for a little bit that friend goes off to play with someone else and Kate just stands there. Then, she'll go ask another friend to play with her and that friend tells her "no." Jon asked her what she does then, and she said that she just walks around being sad because none of her friends will play with her.

It was surprising to hear all of this because last year it seemed like Kate was good friends with everyone in her kindergarten class. Seemed like she was bringing home something a friend gave her at least once a week or so.

She had some friends over last night and had a hard time with everything. I remember her coming upstairs from the play room crying because her friends wanted to play with Eliza, and the boys kept playing with them also.

It's so hard to just sit back and let it happen. I mean, it's not her friends' faults that this is happening, they're just being first graders; and, yet, I don't know what to say to Kate or how to help her through this.
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Becky said…
Poor Kate! The same thing happened to Breanna in second grade and the girls were mean to her too! It is so hard to watch! We had a lot of tears, but we just kept encouraging her to find some new friends. Some teachers like to know too when that happens.
Good luck!
November 12, 2008
Head Over Hills said…
This is something that I have such a hard time understanding. It's so frustrating to me that there are so many friend issues even in just the first grade. There is a little girl in Bells class at school that is so mean to her. It makes Bell feel bad. I keep asking her why she plays with her and she tell me she doesn't know or that she doesn't know who else to play with. It really frustrates me. I try to talk to Bell all the time about being nice to everyone, but I'm sure it's hard at times when others aren't being kind to her. I know a few other girls she could spend time with that I think might be kinder. It's so hard to send them to school and not be there to protect them from kids that are mean. I'm so sorry for Kate. I hope things get better for her. Don't you hate that first grade sounds so much like junior high already. So not fair! These kiddos should have to deal with these issues yet.
November 12, 2008
Lynette said…
I wouldn't know what to say or do if it was my daughter having that problem...I think it's wonderful, though, that she opened up to your husband about it. I hope my husband and I can be that observant with our children when they get to be school-age...
November 12, 2008
Shilo said…
Wow, sounds like the same issue we have with Tanis.
It is so hard and you never know what to do.
Some weeks are just better than others, so hopefully in the end it will all work out.
November 13, 2008
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